Help Low Self Esteem, please...please

A step-by-step method to help low self esteem is here for anyone to help ourselves.

Once you apply it. You can choose to forget it, as you do not need it anymore.

Or you choose to remember and share this brilliant technique as a self help for low self esteem persons you may know.

"Trust yourself, then you will know how to live." - Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

Many years back when I feel very...very low self esteem for weeks, I had a chance to read a book of Anthony Robbins, Awaken the giant within.

I have followed his brilliant methods of change. And since that time, I never feel so low self esteem anymore. Seem like high force has heard me beg "help low self esteem, please...please". Then i got to find this technique.

You can use his brilliant methods of change in every area of your life. However, I have applied and share with you how I use this great way to change my esteem level.

Here is the step-by-step guide to help low self esteem :

1. Know and tell yourself what you want to achieve. Say it in your own word will be great.
2. Ask yourself what prevents you from getting what you want? Ask yourself and notice what you do, think, see, hear when you feel low self esteem?
3. Interrupt or break your old behavior, the one you do, think, see, hear when you sense low esteem. (from step2)
4. Choose new behavior you want to do instead of the old one
5. Practice doing new behaviors repeatedly. You can use imagination to practice.
6. Do a test if you automatically do a new behavior instead of old one or not.

Sharing more on what I did to follow this step by step:

1. -> I stated to myself that I want to have high self esteem, want to feel good about myself
2. I asked myself what prevent me from high self esteem. And here,-> I found what prevented me from high esteem are I myself and my negative comments I gave to myself. I noticed that I always had thoughts like I could not do these, could not do those, am not good enough,... I continuously fed my thoughts with all negative comments.
3. I interrupted my old behavior in thinking about all things I cannot do by -> asking myself "What will my life be in next three year if I continue thinking like these with myself?". And I saw myself sitting alone sadly like a rotten rose. No friends around..no more laughter...everything around me seemed so dim and gray.

I chose new behavior I want to do instead of the old negative comments about myself by -> asking myself this new question "What could I do at this situation to make it better?"

4. -> I practiced by using imagination. I imagined that when I give negative comment to myself, I will ask myself a question of what I could do in this situation to make it better.
5. -> I test it by imagination. I imagined of a situation where I will feel down. When I feel down, I automatically asked myself what I could do to make it better. Yeah!

Since that time, when I feel down, I will automatically ask myself what I could do to make it better. And it makes me see choices I can do...as you can guess.. my esteem level is up..The gift I beg for "help low self esteem, please" works very well.

"Someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality." - Les Brown

The bottom line of this success is Twin Power - Pain and Pleasure. I strongly agree what Anthony said in his book that everything we do in life is driven by this twin power. We do everything in order to avoid pain or gain pleasure.

And during my exercise on this self esteem, I have linked massive pain to the old behavior of negative comments on myself at step 3. I have seen my life in next three year if I still did these negative comments. And for me, the life like this is very painful for me.

Now it is your turn to exercise this by yourself.

Use your own thoughts in each step. Please do not copy exactly what I do...this is not copyright issue..

It is just because we are different especially in how we think. What would be very painful for me will be nothing in your mind. Follow your own feeling.

Experience this wonderful method yourself. Then next time you hear someone say "help low self esteem, please", you can help them :-)

A great way to help low self esteem is here. Feel free to use it or share it to your friends who need it.

SELF ESTEEM motvational poster by sallybeam

P.S. Surround yourself with this kind of motivational poster. And let it inspire you towards more self esteem.

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